my boyfriend wants to use hinge to make female friends

[u/Specific_Broccoli]

hi girls. tonight we're having drunken udon noodles with a dirty martini because my original dinner was a single olive in said martini and the mods quite reasonably informed me that this does not constitute food 💛 humiliating. anyway, i've acquired noodles. sadly they have done nothing for the boyfriend situation.

i've been with my boyfriend for about a year. a while ago he told me he was going out for drinks with a female friend i'd never heard of before. slightly odd, but fine. women are allowed to exist and i'm not asking for a register of every woman he's ever met.

then completely randomly i found out they'd actually met on hinge before we got together.

this was information he'd somehow neglected to include when describing her as “a friend”.

when i asked him about it, he insisted they'd never dated and had simply become friends. personally i'd consider “we originally matched on a dating app” fairly relevant supporting documentation when telling your girlfriend you're off for drinks with a woman she's never heard of, but perhaps i'm overly committed to administrative transparency.

also: HE arranged the drinks. and she apparently didn't properly know he had a girlfriend either. he'd vaguely mentioned seeing someone but somehow never managed the enormous linguistic undertaking of saying “i have a girlfriend”.

so: former hinge match, drinks he initiated, girlfriend doesn't know their history, hinge woman doesn't really know about girlfriend. extremely efficient system. nobody has the full information except him.

we obviously had a massive row.

and somehow his takeaway from this was to ask whether i'd be okay with him using hinge to find more female friends in the future.

hinge. for female friends.

apparently we're treating the dating app like a local knitting circle now.

he thinks i'm being controlling because he wouldn't be “looking for dates”. i think if you're opening hinge specifically to meet women, we may simply have reached the limits of the english language.

anyway, we're currently barely speaking and he's annoyed that i'm struggling to move past something he insists was completely innocent.

perhaps tomorrow i'll download deliveroo and use it to find a dentist.

am i being unreasonable or has this entire situation gone completely off the rails?

edit: for context, there was actually a whole period before the “hinge for female friends” suggestion where i just felt completely insane for being upset that he'd gone for drinks with a woman, told me basically nothing about her, and i only found out by accident later that they'd originally met on a dating app. i've had jealousy issues before, so i kept telling myself i was being insecure and needed to trust the man who'd always made me feel incredibly loved and secure. then he suggested using hinge to find more female friends and my remaining brain cell finally clocked in for work. apparently i'd overcorrected from “jealous girlfriend” all the way to unpaid defence counsel 💀

[u/bonkers-asparagus]

bro am i the only one who thinks these posts are ai?

[u/Calm_Librarian_1042 → u/bonkers-asparagus]

I am about to mute this whole sub because constantly it is just women or bots asking such stupid shit.

The sub could be non existent if most of the people who posted here read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/xrLUWTWLuz

[u/Vagercise → u/Calm_Librarian_1042]

Yes this post is a must read, thank you for reposting. I think about this one a lot.

[u/Spaceman_fan → u/bonkers-asparagus]

Thank you I had to scroll way too far for this. It’s absolutely got that smug AI “humour” all through it

[u/Some1AteMyEntirePie → u/Spaceman_fan]

It’s 100% ai humor

[u/black_bean_catterole → u/bonkers-asparagus]

At the very least, engagement bait. Because there’s no way anyone sits back and thinks this is remotely okay, not even the dumbest, youngest, and most insecure of us. Be so for real.

[u/nothingmen → u/bonkers-asparagus]

Yea some parts of the text read a lot like AI especially the ending with the "overcorrecting from jealous girlfriend all the way to unpaid defence counsel" who says that??

[u/Direct-Whole6393 → u/bonkers-asparagus]

Doesn’t really read as the usual ai posts to me

[u/bonkers-asparagus → u/Direct-Whole6393]

maybe not but it definitely feels like engagement bait

[u/elfowlcat → u/bonkers-asparagus]

It sounded like venting to me, which I’m 100% behind… as long as it’s followed by a decision.

[u/timory → u/Direct-Whole6393]

all the "jokes" are very clearly AI-written

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[u/Ok-Elevator-5523 → u/bonkers-asparagus]

I hate all the ones that are like "reposting because I didn't include food the first time" ... sounds like you're in the wrong sub then?